Friends that Lift You Up & Push You to be More

friendsI can’t stress enough the importance of surrounding yourself with great people – friends that push you to be your best and do more.  Believe it or not, the people you associate with influence you.  We tend to become like the people we spend the most time with.  Who do you spend the most time with?  Now, ask yourself this: what kind of person do you want to be? Who do you want to be around?

Who Influences You?

Did you ever notice that when you hang around certain people you tend to act a little…naughty shall we say?  It might not be anything substantial, but maybe you have an extra cocktail when you’re around these people, or you allow yourself to overindulge and eat things you wouldn’t normally eat, or you slack off a little.  Have you ever noticed after hanging out with someone that doesn’t honor their partner, that your attitude toward your relationship changes a bit, too?


Friends that Lift You Up

On the other hand, is there someone in your life that makes you sit up a little straighter?  You feel just slightly uncomfortable around this person, but it’s only because you want to be on your best behavior and he or she pushes you to be your best.  These are the kind of people you need to surround yourself with!  People that make you aware of your image, how you speak, your organization…people who inspire you to work on you and make you 2013-04-12 smart success 3040 - version 2believe that your relationships take precedent.

Think of people in your life that are constantly filling your bucket.  They give you new information and challenge you.  When you surround yourself with friends like this, your life will completely change.  You become more positive, driven, and focused on your priorities.  THIS is who you need to be spending time with!


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So how do you find these people? Well, it’s the law of attraction! You attract the people you want to be around by BEING the kind of person YOU want to be around.  Even if you don’t feel it initially, exude the energy you want to attract.

Stop giving yourself negative labels and speak to yourself and about yourself in a more positive tone.  For instance, rather than saying things like, “I’m so shy,” or “I’m just so self conscious,” or “I’m awkward around people,” focus on the positive changes you are making.  Instead say, “I’m overcoming my shyness.”  Speak as if you are already the person you want to be.

As you become more positive and more like the person you want to become and be around, those positive people will find their way to you.  Before you know it, you’ll be surrounding yourself with friends that lift you up and distancing yourself from the people that bring you down.  Remember, you’re amazing, and you’re worth it!

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9 thoughts on “Friends that Lift You Up & Push You to be More

  1. This has absolutely proven true in my life! I have some friends that I just have to limit my time spent with them. And others, like my Beachbody family, with whom I wish I could be every day!! I truly believe that I wouldn’t have the consistency with maintaining my weight loss, nor my positive mindset without the amazing people that have become a part of my life because of Beachbody!!

    Chalene, thank you for always being a positive, shining light and speaking so much truth into my life!! You are AMAZE-BALLS!!! 🙂

  2. You are SO Right on this topic! It is such an important aspect of success and reaching your goals! Thank YOU for all you do to help all of us Chalene!

  3. I am a believer in this and not only because I see that it improves my attitude and success but because of the example I set for my daughter.
    My 18 year old daughter recently commented on how she let go of a toxic pal her last year at high school. When I asked her why, she said that she remembered me saying that I was going to distance myself from a girlfriend who was raising her kids with different morals than I was. She said that she knew it was hard for me because we shared quite a few friends and that there were things I was not going to be invited to do with them. She told me that she always remembered that and used it as a guideline for choosing new friends and letting go of some of the not so good ones.
    Despite saying that I embarrass her when I dance in public or when I call out to her in the market and ask her if she needs some Tampax (I’m kidding, I don’t), she does looks to me to set the example. It’s super important that we do!!!!
    Thanks for a great post, Chalene!

  4. Chalene, you are so right! I recently had to cut a “friend” out of my life, because of all of the negativity she was bringing into my life. I had been thinking about mending the relationship, but after coming back from Summit and being around thousands of positive people and feeling like I’ve grown, I couldn’t go back to it. I had to let it go! And I’m so much happier because of it! I’m improving myself and my life, and I will not let anyone hinder me from doing so.