Almost all of us at some point will have to face the reality of taking care of an aging parent or loved one. And if you’ve been following me for the past couple of years, you know my husband, Bret, and I have been dealing with this matter — caring for my father-in-law, Bob, who has Alzheimer’s. So today, I welcome Amy Cameron O’Rourke — aging expert, professional care manager for more than 40 years and author of the The Fragile Years. In this beautiful and important conversation, we cover myriad topics we should all be aware of when it comes to the end of life wishes of our loved ones and ourselves.
You’ll find out:
- Do’s and Don’ts as to when we should be talking about these fragile matters
- Why you should never talk to your parent as if they’re your child
- Why Amy recommends personal visits with your parents (when you live far apart)
- How to handle it when you don’t agree with your parent’s end-of-life wishes
- Where to find a care manager
- What to do if you experience guilt for not doing enough (or not knowing what to do) to help your aging parent
- Why we always feel like we’re not doing enough for our aging parents
- The unique sort of fatigue that is taking care of an aging parent
- Different situations re: spouses caring for their ailing spouse
- How to navigate the journey of an aging parent with other family members
- Why you need to go about this aging parent journey for all the right reasons
- Is it selfish to put your aging family member in a nursing home?
- How to find the right placement manager
- Misconceptions about hospice
- The nonverbal cues someone exhibits when they’re ready to pass and why/how you have to let them
- How to navigate the end-of-life of an abusive or never-present parent (with whom you had no relationship with)
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