Why We Attract Needy Friends
Why do we attract needy friends? Do you ever feel like your friends tend to run to you with their problems? In this CarSmart, I’ll talk about a theory I call Wounded Bird Syndrome; I was a wounded bird attractor for a long time. Now, I’m not saying it’s a horrible thing to help someone in need. But if, for example, your partner or kids aren’t receiving enough of your time, you may want to rethink who you invest your time in.
Sometimes it’s hard to realize that you have needy friends. It’s especially hard to acknowledge that they are consuming as much of your time as they are. This episode will help you to determine whether your friendships are requiring a healthy amount of your time, or if they are bringing you down to exhaustion.
What You Will Learn In This Podcast About Needy Friends:
- My theory: Wounded Bird Syndrome. (0:48)
- How your friendships can be more destructive than they are good. (1:20)
- Needy friends. What are they? (2:00)
- Why I always used to swoop in and save the day, and how I broke that cycle. (2:40)
- A current example of how I procrastinate. (5:40)
- What it means to be a wounded bird collector. (9:50)
- Don’t let other people’s problems become your problems. (10:20)
- How needy friendships can lead to codependency. (11:40)
- What you must do to avoid needy friendships. (15:00)
Thanks for listening in to this CarSmart episode! So, do you think you have some needy friends? If so, I hope this episode will help you to assess your friendships and teach you how to focus your time on what is most important.
Important Links from the Show
If you liked this episode, check out Episode 325 – What to Do When People Don’t Like You | Tips to Win Anyone Over.