“Do people like me?” If this is a question you find yourself asking (and worrying about), then you’ve come to the right place. Let’s be honest, it doesn’t feel good to wonder if people like you. And it’s got to be something you’d love to fix ASAP – which is, I’m guessing, why you’ve found this blog today.
I’ve listened to and read a ton of books about this subject. Like, HOW TO…
- Make a good first impression
- Be more likable
- Have better social skills
- Nail conversation
- Build instant rapport
- Win friends
- Influence strangers
For more than 20 years, I’ve studied the science behind the infamous question opening this blog. Why? Well, oftentimes I’m introduced to a crowd, or an audience, or maybe it’s an ad, and I’ve got to figure out,
How do I connect with people in five seconds?
So, yeah, I’ve spent a lot of time studying it!
Because of which, I’m thrilled to say, I’ve been able to help a lot of people make a change in this area. Sure, there are a bajillion tips I could shell out… but, frankly, they would be hard to cement to your memory.
For that reason, I just want to give you ONE that matters the most. If you just remember this, your life will change. Opportunities will come to you. You’ll feel differently about yourself. People will feel differently about you. You’ll be the person who comes to mind first.
Remember, we go out of our way and try to make things happen for people we like.
Most things we do in life, typically, are rooted behind 1) someone doing something for us or 2) we just really like that person.
Don’t you find it so much easier, rewarding, and fulfilling to do things for people because you really truly like them?
Look, don’t ever do something for people because you think you’re going to get the hookup later or they’re going to reciprocate. They won’t. The world doesn’t work that way. In my humble opinion, I feel that’s God’s way of teaching us that kindness and goodness should be done for the right reasons. And when you’re doing it to serve yourself, you won’t be served.
Back to the ONE thing that matters most in getting people to like you…
Be curious and ask more questions!
Don’t ask questions because you’re looking for an in. This isn’t about finding an opportunity to interject and go,“Oh, yeah. Well, I did that, too. Here’s something about me…”
Learn to get curious and ask people more questions! Now, as I write that, I can’t help but think of those who wonder if they might come across as being nosy or intrusive. This is something I hear a lot. And the answer is no.
When you sincerely inquire, you come off as being interested in the other person. Who’s going to be offended by the fact that you’re intrigued by them? Who, in their right mind, is going to be take issue with the idea that you want to know more about them?
If the situation should happen to present itself where you DO happen to ask a question that’s a little too personal… that’s okay. You just say,
“I apologize. That might’ve been too personal. I just find you interesting and was genuinely curious.”
So please, just repeat this over, and over, and over again:
“I need to be okay with asking more questions, and being authentically curious about other people.”
To find out a killer system for asking questions, knowing WHICH questions to ask, the art of follow up questions, and my 6 tips guaranteed to get people to like YOU… then you MUST check out my recent podcast on The Chalene Show, titled:
Tips To Win Anyone Over! As always, I wrap personal anecdotes and suggestions around every tip to help best clarify the topic!