Confidence is something everyone can work on. There’s always going to be a comment or situation that rocks you, but it’s how you handle it and pick yourself back up. The goal I have for myself is feeling quietly confident, that I don’t need the attention or approval of everyone in the room. I can be comfortable in my own skin and am easy to be around. I want to have uplifting people in my life, and one way to attract them is to feel uplifted myself. Three ways I boost my confidence is with experience, habit, and exercise. I hope that you’ll find a way to include all three in your daily life; your confidence will only grow because of them.
We gain confidence through experience because we only have courage because of fear. You gain confidence in showing yourself that you can do it. Experience calms your fears because it shows you what you can do and how far you’ve come. If you’re trying something brand new, chances are your first time won’t be super successful. As you practice you’ll get better and your confidence will grow. Just remember you have to start somewhere. So if you aren’t very confident about something, from driving to starting a new workout, remember that you just have to start and as you gain experience you’ll gain confidence.
Sometimes in order to grow our confidence we have to change a habit. What we choose to focus on throughout our days plays into our confidence because confidence grows based on what we feed it. If I’m always down on myself or only think about the things I’m no good at, soon I’ll be self-conscious and insecure. Instead I have to focus on the good things, the things I want to accomplish, and the things I’ve already done that have proved I can reach my new goal.
An example of this is when I launched my first workout video. In the beginning it was well received because all my friends were trying it and giving me good feedback. Soon it was expanding and people who didn’t know me were giving it a go, which sometimes resulted in negative feedback or comments. While I had thousands of positive comments I kept getting stuck on those few negative ones. I understand not everyone will love everything I put out, but it still hurt. So I changed my habit and since then I don’t read comments because I can’t let them affect my confidence like that. That first video helped mean learn how to adjust my habits so I could continue to release information and share my experiences.
Exercise is my favorite way to boost confidence because it only takes 30 minutes. I’m serious, schedule a thirty-minute workout for yourself this week and see how you feel. Exercise is a great mood booster and body transformer, but it also can do wonders for your confidence. Make sure you pick a workout that you’ll look forward to and enjoy; forcing yourself to do something that’s not fun won’t really work here. At the end of every workout check in with yourself and see how confident you feel. Chances are you are feeling pretty proud that you finished the workout, and the more you continue throughout the week, the more progress you’ll see.