What is the first thing people notice about you? Are you making the best first impression you can? We tend to judge others quickly, in way less than a minute. We are either drawn to them or we’re not. What can you do to be sure you’re attracting people and making them want to know more about you? First impressions in these areas matter…a lot!
Here are Four Areas to Focus on for First Impressions
Take the time to look your best and dress appropriately for the situation. You want to fit in; you don’t want your garments to draw attention away from yourself. Look clean and ready to engage with others.
Stand up straight and look energetic. Even if you’re feeling a little timid, walk in like you own the room and as if everyone there is fortunate you have finally arrived. Keep your stance slightly open and your arms free and uncrossed.
Your mother always told you to stand up straight. It turns out she was right! Maintaining an upright posture elongates the spine and increases energy.
Besides, when someone is standing tall, shoulders back and head up, they just look better. When you have good posture, you look alert and ready to go. We are naturally drawn to people with great posture.
Perform core strengthening exercises to support your back and give yourself reminders to sit up straight. Making a habit of perfect posture will increase your energy and will signal to others that you’re engaged and attentive!
So much of what we say is nonverbal. A smile is one of the best ways to show others that you’re enthusiastic and engaged. Many times, when people concentrate they have a sour or blank expression. Try to catch yourself if you feel yourself starting to frown when you’re working on something. It’s just a habit. Smile fully and look people in the eye. When they speak, nod and smile as if you understand what they are saying. Make others feel like they are very important to you. Look genuinely happy to be with them.
Think about the energy you want to share with those around you and change your expression to be inviting, open and optimistic. You’ll be surprised at how such a simple alteration can change so much!
You know what they say, “Smile and the world smiles with you.”
Every single time you have a choice, choose kindness. We respect people we can trust. Build a reputation for integrity. Ask questions. Show interest in others. It’s the surest way to win people over. Give compliments (and mean them!).
The way you speak is important. Do your best to speak clearly and at an auditory level that mimics others in the room. You neither want to be too quiet nor too loud. Be kind and positive. But mostly, listen. Let others speak. You never learn anything new from talking. Take the time to hear what others have to say and to learn about them. One of the best ways to connect with someone else is to share a common interest. Find out what motivates those around you. What inspires them? Encourage them to say more and to explain. You will learn something new and you’ll have made others feel at ease with you.