Everyone has long-term goals, but most of us are scared of big goals. You know like saving up to buy a house, losing over ten pounds, or paying off debt. Big goals are scary because most of us have tried and failed when it came to a big goal, and that set us back in even wanting to attempt another one. Big goals feel intimidating. They feel far away and huge, like a mountain we aren’t prepared to climb. One way to handle big goals is to break them into smaller goals. Smaller goals create momentum, especially if they’re attainable and easy enough to achieve. Another way to tackle big goals is to focus on goals in terms of your feelings and what you really want out of it. In order to do this we must establish how we feel and use those feelings to create new goals.
Establishing Feelings and Setting Goals
When I set out to do things I want to do the things that make me feel a certain way, usually happy, useful, or in charge of myself. I want the same for you. It’s time to stop setting goals because you feel like you’re supposed to do them. You know, things like have a huge house or a fancy car. Whatever it is it’s probably a representation of visual success. It’s time to start thinking about how you want to feel, and using those feelings to achieve whatever it is you dream about. For me I want to make sure I always have freedom of choice. If I am presented with an opportunity that takes that away from me, I say no because it will take away from my happiness. Identifying your true feelings can be done with phrases like “I need to feel _____ in order to feel happiness” and “would saying yes give me a feeling of _____?” Understanding your feelings and being true to yourself will help you launch into goal setting.
Once you know what you need to feel happiness, the goals will fall into place. If you take my example of feeling freedom of choice in order to feel happy, think about all the goals I can set with that in mind. If I want to change my workout because I’m just not sticking with it, I need to use freedom of choice to help me refocus. Maybe you’re the type that following a schedule is good but being told exactly which workout to follow each day is too restrictive, so you don’t do it. This time you are approaching it knowing you want freedom of choice, so instead of following a rigorous and structured plan, you may want to choose from a pool of videos or alternate which workouts you do so that you consistently have that freedom of choice.
Remember that goal setting is very personal and individual, which is why knowing your feelings and using them to plan can work for everyone. It may take a little time to sort out how you feel and where you want to go, but once you do, those goals will take shape and will be easy to approach and achieve. No goal is worth pursuing if it takes away from your happiness, remember it’s your life and your goals; you’re always in charge.
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